Working in a new market different from where you come from can be tiring. You have your own set of expectations for work, for the ways things should be done. There are some certain standard and experience you hold as a benchmark. You get frustrated because things don’t seem to be right. You push hard. You scream from the top of your lungs. You pour your negative energy to people around you. You keep pushing, pushing and pushing until you feel that you are running out of your energy. You go back home thinking what you are there for. Things just don’t move the way it should be moving. Going back again with anger you still keep pushing into what you expect. And then you come back and ask yourself, whether you have too high the expectation.
Should you lower down your expectation and let things flow the way it is, then enjoy life? It is not bad taking the job in a more relaxing place as a holiday and then enjoys it. Why push while things don’t move anyway? Or otherwise if you push too much things may fall apart.
You are expecting things to happen the way you want. You hit the ball to another side and you expect someone to hit it back. When it doesn’t bounce back, you blame on the other side that they cannot hit the ball. Have you ever taken a look back and then study closely how wide the gap of experience and culture you and your opponent is? Maybe you have to start to expect yourself to work a bit harder to hit the ball right into their racket. When they got it right, you start to make them move around a bit further. Think of them as your student and you are training them up. They are not your opponents. Higher expect yourself to perform better not expecting them to perform better.
